Thinking. Thinking. Thinking.
Lately, I’ve realized that God truly does have a sense of humor. Am I the only one that sometimes wish you could “un-know” what you know? I think sometimes life would be easier if we didn’t know the things we’ve discovered but at the same time, that would only be beneficial for complacency minded folk and not folks on a mission to achieving greatness, increase, and not settling with anything.
Oftentimes, we may get caught in the flow of things and just take things as they are without making a dare to change the status quo. I read a bumper sticker the other day that read, “only dead fish go with the flow.” That statement immediately got my wheels turning…thinking. We all may post, re-post, tweet & re-tweet nice catch phrases about love, friendship, God – but do we just like what these statements are saying, or are they mottos in our lives. Are we quick to post about the lack of loyalty of friends – but ourselves have excuses for why we are not there for our friends; are we quick to “amen” the male-bashing, but when we have someone, we only remind him of his wrongdoings and shortcomings and not uplifting him daily; are we the 1st to say, God is Good when things are good, but praise for Him when we’re in the dumps or those closest to us are in the dumps?
How often are we REALLY evaluating our lives and TRYING to make it better. What are you doing to better your life on a daily basis? Are you changing your eating or sleeping habits? Are you spending less time wasting your time on mediocre things / people or are you investing more in yourself and those that invest in you? Are you saving more than spending? Are you sharing more than receiving? Many do not feel they have anything to share…did you realize that your “time” is more valuable than anything else? Your time, meaning your undivided attention to listen to your friends/family without monopolizing the conversations/visit making it about you? Your time meaning, putting thought into what your friends/family may be going through and showing compassion/empathy and hurt with them, cry with them, pray with them, think & rationalize with them. Do you realize that when a person (even the strongest person you know) are often burdened with not opening up because of their strong persona that, sometimes they may just want to take the damn mask off and be free of the walls, the barriers and the mask of strength and for just a moment, be vulnerable, weak and scared. Can you allow that?
I read a statement that said, “a person that apologizes over & over for the same thing(s) is not sorry…they just don’t care!” How would you feel if your actions or lack of, was giving the impression to your friends/family that you just don’t care. Just for me thinking that, it’s pretty painful. But I’m sure, there is someone out there, that is feeling just that and probably won’t even mention it to you. If you don’t believe me – ask someone.
I’m sharing these thoughts because in my journey to take control of my life – because for so long I have been going, going & going mainly to please this one, that one and the other one, yet, was coming up short. Well, in some revelations in the past few months, where I have realized some friends are associates, some associates are friends and some relationship prospects are not even on my radar because I have realized my value and daily accept my worth and what was being offered is not even worth me entertaining in the least…like I stated earlier, about spending less time wasting time on mediocre things…no disrespect to those prospects…it is, what it is. This doesn’t just go for romantic relationships, but relationships in general. People show you MORE than they will tell you, how they truly feel about you through their actions. So, for the past few months, I have gauged my worth to others based upon their actions/reactions to me.
So, even though I stated earlier sometimes I wish I could “un-know” what I know..,.well, thinking about it now, I am HAPPY to KNOW what I KNOW it has guided me in receiving people accordingly, what I could expect from others, what not to expect and at the end of the day, I am a much happy camper. There is no love or respect lost – just me taking control of my life. I will not designate space nor a title for someone that is not capable or willing to fulfill the job. I am the boss and my company is my life. (1) God, (2) Self, (3) Applicable others… “When someone has been given much, much will be required in return; and when someone has been entrusted with much, even more will be required” – therefore, when you give YOUR life (any aspect of it) to someone/something – that is a mighty much that you are giving (choice)… God gave us life – that’s a mighty, mighty giving…we are required to do much with our lives, yet sometimes our connections/attachments etc., prevent us from giving back to God what he has given to us. I’ll leave things here for you to ponder on.
It’s YOUR LIFE…take control of it. YOU ARE THE BOSS